Summer was the time for family reunions in the place where I grew up. My own family's (which coincided with that of our church) was the third Sunday in June. It was always hot - it was mid-June in the South after all.
People came from far and near to spend a day with family and friends that they might not see for another year - if ever again. There was all-day singing at the church with "dinner on the ground," except it wasn't really on the ground. It was on a long series of wooden tables built behind the church. People brought their food from home and spread it on the tables and everybody shared. Potato salad and fried chicken always featured prominently in the food that was brought.
When I was growing up, my mother always got me a new dress and shoes for the day and I generally ended the day with blisters on my heels from the new shoes. But that was a minor inconvenience.
When I came across this poem in my search for one to feature this week, it reminded me of those days and of so many people that I loved who are no longer there. No more family reunions when so many of the family members are gone. But anyway who needs a picture of it all when the camera of the mind remembers...
by Dorianne Laux
Camera in hand, I call out to them,
one by one, in twos and threes,
Camera in hand, I call out to them,
one by one, in twos and threes,
working up to the group shots,
the family portrait.
My nephews, scrubbed clean, dressed
in red, hug each other's mirror image
and smile the same smile.
Head to head, their dark hair mingles
as the shutter clicks.
Now I sit the baby between them,
my niece who has my eyes, my nose,
a stranger's wide mouth.
The flash going off in her face
makes her love the small black box
I hold, so much, she is willing to pose
forever, as if I held the force
of the sun, a gorgeous toy, and all
her days balanced in my hands.
Grandmother squeezes in, holds
her baby's babies in her diminishing lap,
circles the shoulders of her son,
her daughters, my own shy daughter,
and pulls them into the frame,
the fine lines of noses and chins
a painter's signature stroke.
I take picture after picture,
the windows going darker
with each bright flash, each face
held up to the repetition of light.
But when I look to see how many frames
are left, I find the tiny window
in the camera is empty, remember
the film left on my dresser
500 miles away. I smile at my family,
ask them to stay where they are
just a few minutes longer as I press
the blank shutter again
and again, burning their images into my own
incorruptible lens, picture
after perfect picture, saving them all
with my naked eye, my bare hands,
the purest light of my love.
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There is great poignancy here. One day some of us will be the last one standing, and that is hard. Memories are precious but never quite enough.
ReplyDeleteYou've caught the spirit of the poem just perfectly.
DeleteWhat a great poem! Love the picture she paints. :D
ReplyDeleteShe makes the reader feel as though she is there, doesn't she?
DeleteOh, I love this poem. How wonderful to continue 'taking photographs' with no film in the camera. It is so true that 'the camera of the mind remembers'. Physical photographs are a prompt to memory.
ReplyDeleteExactly. It's nice to have the physical pictures to show others but I certainly don't need them for myself. The memories are strongly imprinted on my mind.
DeleteI've been there - taking pictures and realizing there was no film in the camera. So what else can you do but activate your memory? The poem made me think I was part of that family reunion.
ReplyDeleteYes, I have experienced that, too. Thank goodness we don't usually have to worry about that anymore.
DeleteFilm left on the dresser --- I like that part. No one needs to know. Just keep taking the picture!
ReplyDeleteand thx Dorothy for your comments on my post this week. much appreciated.
I always enjoy your posts and am happy to comment!
DeleteWe are planning a big reunion for my dad's 100th birthday next January. I am sad to think of all of those who won't be there, but it will be lovely to see all the young people. It reminds me of a quote from Anne Lamott's fiction book, ‘In a hundred years?—All new people.’
ReplyDeleteHow wonderful to be planning for your dad's 100th birthday! And to think of all the changes his 100 years has seen. What will the next 100 years bring?
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